Yo, what's up, bloggees?
It takes some courage (or maybe just foolhardiness) to broach what I am about to ask. Certain questions probably shouldn’t be asked unless the inquirer is prepared for an unpleasant answer. But I am really curious. Can anyone tell me why my blogs don’t elicit ANY comments? Scholastic parenting blogs are not inundated with replies, but most do elicit a few favorable comments, and occasional critical ones too. Mine evoke only stony silence. Have you ever tried to argue with someone who doesn’t answer back? These silent treatments are sometimes more distressing than even unreasonable criticism. You know, the old show biz motto: "Call me anything, but call me."
If I think back to unpleasant memories of adolescence, high on the list was waiting for a phone call for a second date from a guy who was fun on the first. It seemed as if those I hoped would never waste another evening of mine, did call, and too soon. Anyone of interest took forever, or so it seemed. I have to say I think that compared to then, I am pretty patient now. I have been writing these blogs for a few years and the only response ever elicited by any of them was a critique of my grammar. (Incidentally, that was pretty embarrassing for a grammar nut; but it was something. It told me there is somebody out there willing to go beyond the opening phrase. She hung in for the whole thing, as a matter of fact, a not insignificant achievement on her part and I guess mine.)
So what’s up? It can’t be the Grandmom thing (you know, “oh bad enough I have to listen to my mother and mother-in-law, I need another grandma with unsolicited advice?”) because even before this new handle, silence reigned in response to my blogs. Off the record, my daughter-in-law told me that a friend of hers finds them amusing; or maybe she actually used the word "witty." I’m still not sure if my daughter-in-law was just trying to cheer me up after seeing all those zeros after the word "responses." She would do that; she’s that thoughtful. But I am "from Missouri" -- metaphorically. I need to be shown that these one-way chats about some things I really care about are not just the old proverbial "noise in the forest." If there is no one there to hear it, did it happen, remember?
So arise, my audience, and give it to me straight! Are there issues you would rather be reading about? Am I missing out on what really matters in your family’s life? Let me have it -- the unexpurgated truth. I am steeled to take it — for the sake of being helpful, reassuring, or at least relevant to you.
November 27, 2007